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Before we discuss how to meet men, lets discuss how to avoid meeting men. Most women have had some experience with unwelcome advances and know how to discourage a man and get him to go away. I want to talk about these things because women often unknowing do them without understanding their effects …

Avoid exposure to men:
1. Stay home or out of sight in general, so that no one will see you or know that you exist.
Avoid his interest:
2. Look unattractive by dressing poorly, don’t do your hair or use makeup.
Make it difficult for him to approach you:
3. Be preoccupied so you have a reason to not see him looking at you, like having your head buried in a book or listening to your music player.
4. If he smiles at you, pretend you didn’t see him, or frown and quickly look away.
5. If he comes close to you or says something to you, pretend you don’t notice him.
6. If you must acknowledge his approach, be short and rude with him.
7. Only offer yes or no answers that offer no additional information, make it uncomfortable for him to continue talking to you.
8. Don’t show any interest in what he is saying
9. Talk about your husband or boyfriend
10. Find a reason to move away from him, like you see a friend, or this is your subway stop or your floor, or you have an appointment and must leave. Make up any plausible sounding reason to get away from him.

There are 3 keys to meeting men if you choose to remain in the passive role:

1. Exposure
2. His interest level
3. Your approachability

Exposure: Exposure means being where the men are, letting them see you, and being physically available for them to meet you. This means getting out of you house and going to the beach, to the singles dance, living in a singles apartment etc.

His interest level: When a man sees you he will immediately make judgments about you and decide if he is interested in meeting you, based on your appearance. While you cannot make every man interested in you, you can managing your appearance to influence some men in your favor, and get them interested in you enough to want to meet you.

Your approachability: This means to minimize his fear that you will reject him if he decides to approach you. You do this by giving him signals that you are interested in him which build his confidence in that particular situation.

Their are basically 3 ways to meet men:

1. Active: you approach them
2. Passive: wait for them to approach you
3. Third party introductions

Active: Is to make the first move and approach a man. This is traditionally the mans role. Very few women are comfortable with making the first move and approaching a man. You suffer the same problem that we do with approaching women: fear of rejection. But it can be done, and with great success.

Passive: You can remain passive and let men approach you. In reality, most women choose the passive role and let men approach them. But being passive does not mean being inactive. Their are many things you can do to actively attract and meet men without violating the social norms. I will spend most of my time and effort telling you how men think, and what you can do to build our interest and make it easier for us to approach and meet you.

Third party: A third party is a friend, a dating service, the internet, etc. Having a friend or a family member introduce you to someone is the very best and easiest way to meet someone. It is the most reliable method, but you have no control over when or if it happens. The third party agent that is fast becoming the way to meet someone, is the internet.